IN LOVING MEMORY OF TYLER CARLSTON

Paddle Out for Tyler

2008-12-18T11:55:00.000-08:00

Please join friends and family Saturday, December 27, at Doheny Beach for a traditional paddle out celebrating the life of Tyler Carlston.

The tentative schedule is: meet at the beach papala or main fale (or big surf shack by the snack bar) for a short memorial at 10:30 AM, paddle out at 11:15 AM to spread ashes, then tributes and pot-luck to follow.

Anyone interested in paddling out please bring your own board. Be aware the entrance fee to Doheny State Park is FREE (normally $10). Please inform the rangers at the entrance booth that you are with the paddle out group.

Please bring your favorite dish, appetizer or dessert to share, along with your fond memories of Tyler. Also bring warm clothes and beach chairs. We would love to spend some time at the beach with all of you. Poor weather conditions will lead us to the enjoy the potluck at the LDS church 2 miles away.

Since Ty touched so many people during his life, http://www.tylercarlston.blogspot.com/ was built to share memories, pictures, moments, and stories. Everyone is welcome and encouraged to submit an entry to share with others alike who knew Tyler Carlston.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations in honor of Tyler's two daughter's Harper and Sienna Carlston be made to the: "Tyler Carlston Benefit Memorial Fund." (Located at any Wells Fargo. The account number for the fund is 7217428411.)

Any questions please contact Kelsi, Tyler's sister at 801-471-6363

Please forward information on to friends and family.

2008-09-20T13:54:00.000-07:00

Tyler C. Carlston

In lieu of flowers or other contributions, a memorial fund has been
created for Tyler's two daughters, Harper and Sienna. Those interested in contributing to the "Tyler Carlston Benefit Memorial Fund", please locate the Wells Fargo nearest to you. The account number for the fund is 7217428411.

In addition, we are also collecting pictures of Ty for his two daughters. Please send any photo's you may have to Kelsi at kelsi.carlston@gmail.com. If you have any further questions, please don't hesitate to contact Kelsi Carlston Miller at or 801-471-6363

We would also invite you to write your favorite
Tyler story or word to describe Tyler
in the blog below or in a email or letter to Tyler's family.

Tyler's family would like to sincerely thank you for all your love and prayers.

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.... Memorial Services Announcement ...

Memorial Services will be held for

Tyler C. Carlston
Monday September 22, 2008

12:30 PM

3010 Saddleback Road
Park City, UT 84098

The viewing will be held from 11AM to 12PM

While riding his motorcycle in South Sandy, Utah on September 17, 2008 Tyler Carlston was hit by a truck and was unable to be revived at the scene of the accident.

At just age 30, Tyler as a licensed rehab counselor, was well known in Utah for his deeply held beliefs, and his valiant efforts to assist others in recovery.

Tyler was an outdoors enthusiast, was always full of energy with a burning desire to experience new challenges in his life.

Mary and Greg Carlston, Tyler's parents, along with his family members, welcome your attendance at Tyler's Memorial Services, as we celebrate his life and honor him in his passing.

Because of the shortness of time, we have not been able to contact all of Tyler's friends and associates to advise them of his Memorial, or to contact all of those who know Greg , Mary and the other family members. Please contact those you know, or who may be friends or acquaintances, so they may be advised of the Memorial Services.

Thank you for your thoughtful prayers on our behalf.
~Carlston Family

For more information please contact

~Kelsi Carlston Miller~

(801) 471-6363

kelsi.carlston@gmail.com

2008-09-19T13:40:00.001-07:00

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awake in the morning’s hush
I am the soft uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there. I did not die.

~Anonymous

2008-09-19T13:40:00.000-07:00

Tyler Carlston loved people. He had many friends. He was easy to get to know because he was so easy to talk too. When people met him, they would tell him their life story with-in minutes. The crazy thing is he listened and was interested. He always found something in common with everyone he would meet. He made people feel loved and important. What could be more important in life than making people feel loved?I always enjoyed being in Tyler's company. He was always entertaining and enthusiastic about life. When you spent time with Tyler you had a smile on your face. I will cherish my memories with Tyler. His spirit of friendship will have an eternal impact on my life.
~James Hardy
Brother in-Law
September 18, 2008 12:07 PM

Two Roads diverged in a Yellow Wood ....

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there,
Had worn them really about the same
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood,
And I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference!
-- Robert Frost (1874–1963)

The above poem made me think about big and little decisions... and my having to choose always just one of two roads, ... how the gift of choosing has blessed my life. How many times in life we think, "Did I take the right path?", "Did I make a right choice?" "Where is my road leading me to?" "Will I be happy with decisions I make? "Today we reflect on life...life lived to an "nth" degree... a life full of experience, because of the life and the passing of Tyler Carlston. It has been said "to know a man...one must look into his heart".. and today more than ever, we know his heart ... it was so very immense...yes, I know Tyler. Tyler...a man who was fearless in choosing of the two roads... making it his way... and that for him made all the difference! Greet us when we arrive, dear Brother Ty! ... for we shall meet you at the divergence of two roads, and will need you to guide us home! We shall always love you and never forget ... feeling your energy and presence in our memories of you always loving life! D.
September 19, 2008 12:37 AM

I will miss Tyler, but only for a time. He was very generous to others. He was always smiling and recently when a member of my staff had problems with her daughter, it was Tyler who spent a couple hours on the phone with her, a complete stranger and a concerned mom. She has thanked me several times for giving her his phone number. What an incredible guy. Even if you hadn't seen Tyler in years he was your best friend.
~Andy and Shawna
September 19, 2008 12:27 PM

We are so saddened to hear the news of Tyler's death. He was an inspiration to so many people, myself included. Our hearts and prayers go out to Tyler's family and friends during this hard time. We love you all.
~The Rojos
September 19, 2008 4:47 PM

I miss him so much already it hurts. Tyler was much more than a friend to me. He was a confidant, teacher, leader, shoulder to lean on and cry on, motivator and brother. He always forced me to think outside of the box and at times live out side of the box. He forced me to push my own limits, experience new things that I would have not otherwise. His energy and love for life was infectious and would fill all around him. We had so many more things to do together in this life. So many more adventures to undertake. So many more challenges to overcome. The world has become a more boring place without my brother Tyler. I love you Tyler and cant wait to see you and give you a big hug on the other side. You left us too soon. I am broken hearted.

All my love a prayers go out to the Carlston family and others who loved Tyler as I did.
~Peter Briggs
September 19, 2008 6:10 PM

The last time I saw Tyler he had tracked me down to go meet up and help an old friend of ours who had just returned home from prison and needed friends and support. He was was selfless and always concerned with others. My memories with Tyler include making explosives out of aluminum foil and hydrochloric acid, scout camps, many a church activity, and always very entertaining conversations about anything and everything. I think he nearly beat me up once too when we were idiot teenagers, although I'd like to think I could take him in recent years.
~Jeff
September 19, 2008 6:41 PM

Go Big! That was Tyler's motto back in the day. And it was how he lived his life. Everything he did in his life was with so much passion, energy, fun, and love. He will always be remembered and loved in my heart. My never ending prayers and love go to the Carlston's.
Love, Julie
September 19, 2008 7:31 PM

I am really sad to hear about Tyler. I don't think I have seen him since leaving home for college. My first memory of Tyler (and the one that always springs to mind when I've thought of him) was when his dad was our home teacher and Tyler would come along when he was about 7 or 8. One time Tyler begged his dad to have me come over to play. I don't remember much about that day other than he told me about a golf ball hitting his dad's car and his dad getting mad, and I thought it was really funny. Tyler turned out to be quite the guy and it's just sad to see it end early, but his family has a lot to be proud of and thankful for.
~Jason
September 19, 2008 10:08 PM

Tyler had a passion for love and life that was contagious. He walked into a room and faces lit up. No matter how much time had passed since the last time you met, he had a way of putting things in perspective and bringing you to the moment, like you had never been apart. His stories brought you with him on his travels. His smile and laughter were genuine, and he listened like a true friend does.Tyler was like a brother to me. He is my brother’s best friend, and part of my family. He knew the importance of keeping in touch, as well as the importance of forgiveness. He knew life was not perfect and was able to show people that no matter what, they mattered. Tyler, you will be missed by the Yates family. You have done more for us than words can say. You are a son, brother, and friend. Thank you for your faith in the human spirit and your resilience in times of trouble. I know we will meet again and I can say, I miss you, and thank you for making me the person I am today.
~Katie Yates Campbell
September 19, 2008 10:57 PM

Our hearts are heavy from the loss of Tyler. He was a one of a kind. I will always remember his laid back attitude and Rainbow Sandals on his feet. He was always quick to put his arm around people and give them a squeeze. He was everybody’s friend and never judged, no matter what. Our thoughts and prayers go out to the Carlston family.
We love you so much!
~Jake and Dana Willis & Family
September 20, 2008 7:30 AM

I am at a loss of words for you all. Our truley heart felt sympathy goes out to you and your family. May God be with you.
~Chris
September 20, 2008 11:22 AM

Every time Tyler and I would talk we would pick up right where we left off, no matter how much time had passed. His laugh and smile were contagious. He told me countless stories about his life and family. Always expressing his love and admiration for all of you. Tyler's heart was so big and he had such a strong spirit. It was one of the many things that I was drawn to when I first met him. He will forever be in my heart and my thoughts, along with all of you as you experience this great loss.
~Mike
September 20, 2008 11:39 AM

Unfortunately it takes something like this for all of us to realize that LIFE IS SHORT (Is this a lesson Tyler is trying to teach us?) He enjoyed life and we were all blessed to know him.
~Family Friend
September 20, 2008 12:02 PM

Losing someone like Tyler is a very big tragedy. I am so sorry that this has happened and that we have to go through such a terrible loss. No one else can know the pain that is felt unless this has happened to someone close to them. They can only imagine and, even then, they can't grasp the intensity of the pain. You loved Tyler with all of your heart and soul, if you knew him. The deeper your love, the deeper the pain of his loss. He will always be with us, and we can't wait to meet him with open arms when our time comes.
~Family Friend
September 20, 2008 12:11 PM

I am so terribly sorry to hear of Tyler's passing. Tyler was an incredible person and so fun to be around and I am very grateful for the opportunity I had to be a friend of Tyler's in his short lifetime. I wish your family strength and comfort during this very difficult time. I am very sorry for your great loss.
~Paul
September 20, 2008 12:20 PM

Tyler will be missed by all, my memories of him were all was happy times, camping, toilet papering, duck taping, and others I wont mention ;) all happy times!
~The Clevelands
September 20, 2008 12:59 PM

The last time I saw Tyler was at Kelsi's wedding. He gave me the biggest hug and for a few minutes made me feel so special in his life. That's the way he always was with everyone that knew him. I hope you know Tyler how special you have always been to me and how much love I have for you and your family. We will see each other again and I can't wait to get another one of those great big hugs.
~Diane Zoratti
September 20, 2008 2:33 PM

It is with such a heavy and saddened heart that I am writing this message about Tyler. Oh Tyler, such a goof ... always cracking a joke about someone or himself. Always wanting to put smiles on peoples faces. Live life, have fun, no worries....these are the things that I will remember about Tyler. Idolizing his family, proud of their accomplishments. Through all the ups and downs, Tyler's heart remained, unquestionablly full of love and his loyalty undeniable. It is with hope that his daughters will one day know the impact that their father had on so many peoples lives and how greatly he will be missed.
All my love and prayers to the Carlston family...

Kels-
Miss and love you, hang in there!
~Mo
September 20, 2008 7:50 PM

Tyler will not only be missed by his family, but everywhere Tyler went he made friends. We have ALL lost a good one. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time.
~Sarah
September 20, 2008 8:15 PM

Oh how my heart aches to hear the news of Tyler's passing. What an increidbile guy he was and an amazing life he lived. It's amazing to see how one life touches soo many, and he blessed so many for knowing them and being who he was. I know all my memories of him are great ones, and my brother has so many stories of from back in the day! They just put a smile on my face! Carlston family.. you are in our prayers, that God will comfort you through this time. We love you!
~Karen Hiatt Blunier
September 20, 2008 11:27 PM

Tyler was so kind and loving. His desire to help others was so great. He often put others way ahead of himself. Working with troubled teens or building sweat lodges for others, Tyler's desire to help others was always evident. I loved him very much. He was always warm with a hug and he was not afraid to tell me that he loved me. I am really going to miss him and I'm so sad we didn't see each other or speak this last year but we let each other know how we felt and that we wanted the best for each other. I know he has had a hard road the the past few years, His pain is now over but I will miss him so much!
~Gaylen Nebeker
September 21, 2008 10:00 PM

Our family will miss Tyler. We were privileged to have him as part of our lives. I will miss his warm smile, enthusiasm for life and the way he made you feel so special and you can't forget his BIG HUGS. Tyler is in God's arms now and those of his family that preceded him. Tyler will contiune to bless our lives in our hearts and those of many other. He will be that guardian angel watching over the lost and lonely. He will be that voice guiding them back home. On behalf of the Greg and Peggy Briggs family we want the Carlston's to know how much we love them and cherish them in our lives through joy and sorrow. As Tyler would say:"Be pure in heart brother!" Tyler was.
~Greg and Peggy Briggs Family
September 22, 2008 6:42 AM

Hi Carlstons! I just wanted to send my best wishes and love since I won't be able to attend today. Please know that I'm thinking about all of you and have you in my thoughts and prayers. Love you! ~ Courtney
September 22, 2008 8:07 AM

I cannot be there but will be so in my heart and spirit. Mary and Greg, my heart is broken for you. You and your family are in my prayers. I am stunned by this news. May God bless and keep you in his care and comfort you during these sad days.
~Michele McDonell King
September 22, 2008 10:53 AM

Hi everyone... My name is Ryan Warner. I would like to tell you of the only interaction I had with Tyler. I only knew Tyler for the last 5 minutes of his life, however, I can tell that he was very loved and that he was such an amazing person. As I lie next to him at the scene of the accident, the few minutes I had with him will be unforgettable. Tyler is such a strong person and felt no pain through the whole experience. His passing was very peaceful, and the spirit was very strong. I had the pleasure of meeting Tyler's family last night, and it's obvious that each person in his family are truly strong and amazing people. Each one of you will be in my thoughts and prayers. I'll remember and his wonderful family forever.
~Ryan Warner
September 22, 2008 5:07 PM

Mary and Greg, Thank you for bringing Tyler, his heart, love and light, into this world. Thank you for all that you give and all that you gave. I am more grateful by the minute for the amount of time I spent this past year or so with Tyler. I see now what a teacher he truly was. The only things that really mattered to Ty were the people he loved, which was most everyone he ever met, and God. That is really something in today's world. He loved you all so much. Chase, he was so excited to spend time with you when you came home from your mission, I looked forward to meeting you because of all the beautiful things he said, and he was right. Kelsi and Camber, he raved endlessly about you too. Harper and Sienna please know how much your father loved you and treasured the moments he spent with you. There was never a time you were not foremost in his thoughts and heart. May God's love be with you always Carlston family. You are of one beautiful and shining heart. May that heart be happy and light once again. I love your huggy family so very much.
~Shauna
September 22, 2008 5:36 PM

Sometimes in life, You find a special friend: someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop, someone that makes you believe that there really is good in this world. Someone who convinces you that there is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. Sometimes we are lucky enough to meet a person who stands out among all the other people. Someone who listens to what you have to say, no matter how unimportant, someone who listens without judging and when we find this friendship we must hold it in our hearts and never let it go … The first time I met Tyler he came walking over, no let me rephrase that strutting over with his contagious smile and with one look into his eyes I knew he was an angel. There was something so different about this man. He was a man who had so much love and wisdom to share. Tyler listened to everything, not just when people spoke beyond that, He shared, he didn’t want to keep the knowledge he had learned to himself. Tyler absorbed the energy around him and He was so connected to life that just being in his presence I truly felt alive for the first time. Tyler spoke to me about things that I never imagined he gave me a different way of looking at life and made me realize that things are not always in black and white. He was a great friend who shared my tears and my laughter, he always seemed to put a smile on my face. I am so heart broken without him. Tyler is my definition of living life and I will let him shine in me. Tyler I Love you and will miss you everyday…
Love Always,
~Becky
September 23, 2008 1:22 PM

Greg, Mary & family:
You are all in our prayers. We are so very, very sorry and wish we knew what to say to help. Please know that we (our entire family) are richer for having had Tyler & your family in our lives as both neighbors & friends. He has always been truly unforgettable; we will all have many amazing memories & stories of the fun, craziness, & laughter he brought to everybody's lives. God Bless you all, and know that we are thinking of you.
~Paul & Judy Beltis and the girls
Mission Viejo
September 27, 2008 1:40 PM

People are people as insugnificant as that sounds at the time it was said to me it was so profound. In my life I've heard a lot seen a lot and it was very rare to meet someone with stories that would awe me. But Tyler had plenty. So when he said to me people are people I began to think here's a guy who has met so many different walks of life, is so educated in human nature and through all his experiences he comes up with three words "People are People". As it turns out those three simple words have helped me out tremendously rather than taking everything personally and racking my brain to figure out why people do what they do I tell myself people are people. Since there are so many different varibles that influence a persons behvior we can almost indefinitely never know why people do what they do. Tyler said a lot of things to me that have stuck. I could go on for a very long time about it. He has been such a huge impact on my life. He was someone I trusted for advice and for me that was huge and rare. What an amazing person, blessed are those who had the opportunity to know him. Tyler once said to me let me be your big brother being that I never had one. I,m honored to have a big brother such as Tyler.
~Sneads
October 5, 2008 7:50 PM

2008-09-17T23:18:00.001-07:00

We will miss your bright smile, but your memories we will cherish always!

... UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN, TYLER ...

Death is nothing at all

I have only slipped away into the next room

I am I and you are you

Whatever we were to each other

That we are still

Call me by my old familiar name

Speak to me in the easy way you always used

Put no difference into your tone

Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow

Laugh as we always laughed

At the little jokes we always enjoyed together

Play, smile, think of me, pray for me

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was

Let it be spoken without effort

Without the ghost of a shadow in it
Life means all that it ever meant

It is the same as it ever was

There is absolute unbroken continuity

What is death but a negligible accident?Why should I be out of mind

Because I am out of sight?I am waiting for you for an interval

Somewhere very near

Just around the corner
All is well.Nothing is past; nothing is lost

One brief moment and all will be as it was before

How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
~Canon Henry Scott-Holland